How To Be Single?

Nope this is not a review of the movie with the same name but if you are single then do go check it out because it is a fun feel good movie to watch.

This is just a little post from yours truly on how to be single. As I've been single for pretty much 22 years of my life, I'm going to give you some tips and ticks on how the single life works and what you should do so let's get started.

1. It's okay to be single

We live in a world where by the time you're an adult, you're supposed to find true love and get married in order to live a happy life. However, having been a child of divorced parents I've learnt that marriage is not forever. I know people can be happily married for years and years but I also know that marriage can lead to divorce. Just know it's okay to be single because you don't have to worry about the thought of divorce or that your significant other is cheating because you're already single. The only person you need to worry about is yourself so take care of yourself.

2. Self love is everything

I'm still learning this tip as it is an uphill battle. However, I do have days where I do love because I'm just so freaking amazing. Yes that may sound vain and big headed but I would never say those words out loud. I just think it. As I'm single, I don't have someone telling me nice things, I have to tell myself nice things in order to feel the love. As sad as that may sound, you do have to learn the art of self love. Just remember that there is only one you in this world. Nobody else is like you. You are unique and special in your own way and it is beautiful. I think of all the good things about me that I love. The fact that I have a sense of humour and can laugh at pretty much anything makes me happy because it means I can see the funny side to life. Also I'm a good listener because most of the time I'm too scared to speak which is half a fault but half a good thing because I do listen to people. I process what I hear before figuring out what to say. However, I realise when I'm comfortable with someone I don't even think, it just comes out naturally. I'm also an introvert which means I can enjoy being myself. I sometimes crave my alone time. It's not me being rude or anything. I just need time to myself otherwise I might explode. I've kind of realised that you don't need a person to make you happy. You can make yourself happy alone. It's a great feeling.

3. Being independent is not a downfall

Some people say that being independent is a downfall and that we should rely on other people. However, from recent goings on with Brexit I've realised we can't rely always on other people. (Oh yeah I brought politics up. This is a serious blog. Just kidding. I don't really care for politics, I'm just making a point.) That's why it's good to have some independence and not follow the crowd. Also being able to support yourself on your own two feet is a key thing to learn for life. I learned this when I went away to university. I learnt how to be independent by paying bills, cooking and cleaning for myself, figuring out my daily routine without having to rely on my parents. Just learning how to stand on your own two feet and be independent is great for being single because it means you don't have to rely on anyone else. Just yourself.

4. Have fun by yourself

You know you can have the best time of your life on a day trip by yourself. You can enjoy your own company while out and about. People always thinks it's sad if you do things alone but it's not. It just shows you're comfortable to be by yourself if you want to be. I learned in my first year of university that you should just make your own fun and not wait around for other people.

On a day when I was feeling down in uni, I did something about it. I planned a trip to the Trafford Centre alone for the very next day. I worked out how to get there via train and got myself really excited. It was one of the best days of my life because I really wanted to go to the Trafford Centre and I realised nothing was stopping me from going. It make feel happy because when I got there, I couldn't believe I had done it. Also I discovered the joys of going shopping alone. I could take my time. Go into the shops I wanted to go into and the shops I didn't want to. If you're curious about the shops I hate it's usually clothes shops. I hate clothes shopping especially for clothes I know I can't afford or where I don't want to spend so much money on. The only shop that I will go clothes shopping and enjoy it is Primark for very obvious reasons. They have Harry Potter stuff there. Anyway, going shopping alone is a treat because you can literally do what you like with nobody getting annoyed or frustrated at you.

On that particular day I decided to do something I'd never done before and didn't think you enjoy alone. I've since learned you can and it is the best thing ever. That is going to the cinema alone. Coincidentally the first movie I went to see alone was How To Be Single. Perfect movie to see alone. I really wanted to see it and nothing was stopping me. I really enjoyed it because I had popcorn and a drink all to myself. I also noticed there were other people alone in the cinema. It is a thing people do after all. Plus I really enjoyed the movie. Nobody cares if you're with people or not in the cinema. We're all there for the same reasons and that's to see the movie. I've been to the cinema now several times alone and had a great time. I recommend giving it a try at least once and you'll see how good it is. Especially when you see a really good movie.

5. Learning how not to give a s***

The beauty of being single is you do start to give less of a crap about what everyone else is thinking. I used to be scared of what people were thinking of me but now being independent I've kind of realised that I don't care what people think. I can wear what I want to wear. I can do the things I want to do. If it makes me happy and feel comfortable then I don't care. Don't get me wrong if someone insults or confronts then I will get offended and probably cry because I'm not a confrontational person. However, I used to think that people were judging me all the time but I've come to realise that nobody gives a s*** about me and what I'm doing so why should I care. I shouldn't. Just be your own person and don't let the haters bring you down.

Anyway, I hope that was some helpful tips on how to be single. Let me know if you have any tips on being single. I would love to hear them.

I hope you enjoyed this post and I'll be back again tomorrow with another post.

See you then.

Megan x 

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