Friendless In Your Twenties

I'm going to be the first to say I'm not a social butterfly, but one thing I've grown to accept is the lack of friends in my life. It's sad really but I don't let it get me down because I've become such an independent person and grown to love doing things by myself. I'm going to be honest with you. The year I spent living in Manchester was probably my loneliest period because I didn't make any new friends and spent the majority of my time in my own company. Making friends in your adult life can be hard because most people have solidified their friendships and some people don't want to add new people into their circles. 

It's not that I don't want any new friends in my life and I'm sure my life would be way more exciting in my life. I guess my problem is I've been let down in the past with friendships. Another problem with adult life is you're way busier with work and your days off may not match so it becomes difficult to plan to meet up. My best friend lives an hour and a half away from me and we both work a lot throughout the week, so it is difficult, but we never stop communicating and when we do meet up, it does feel like no time has passed between us. Of course, there are those friendships that just dissolve. Nothing bad happened and no arguments, just life gets in the way and you both stop making the effort to maintain that friendship. Especially if it's a long-distance friendship. It just fizzles out which is completely normal in adult life. It's not a popularity contest like it was in school and honestly, I'm way more content keeping my circle small. There is less drama going on in my life and I know I have my family too. I do a lot of things with my mum, mainly because I live with her but I'm happy with that because my mum and I get along so well. Of course, we argue but we also know how to make the other feel better when one of us is down. 

I guess the point I'm trying to make is that friendships come and go in life but sometimes you may find yourself having a lack of friends, but it doesn't mean you're completely alone. You have people whether it's close family, one or two friends and maybe if you're lucky you have a significant other in your life. It may seem hard and like you're the odd one out but honestly, lots of people are lonely in their twenties. However, it doesn't mean you can't do anything. Go for a meal by yourself, go to the cinema by yourself. Plan a trip somewhere by yourself. Realise that it is not the end of the world for you. If anything, it helps you to become more independent and be able to learn the art of self-love. Who cares what everyone else your age is doing? Just be you and find those little ways to make yourself happy. Honestly, the moment you break the ice by going to the cinema alone or having a meal in a restaurant alone. You may find that it is very enjoyable. I recently went to Wetherspoons by myself which is handy because you can order on your phone. I sat at a table in the corner by myself, ordered my food and just listened to my audiobook. It was quite enjoyable and when you're eating then you don't even realise the other people in the restaurant, you're just focused on your food and realise that eating on your own in a restaurant is not so bad. I highly recommend you give it a try because you'll soon realise it's not so bad. 

So yes, I may be friendless in my twenties, but I've grown to accept and adapt to my circumstances which you can too if you find yourself in the same position. It doesn't have to be a bad thing and perhaps you didn't expect this is how your life would be growing up but when it all comes down to it, it's not the end of the world. You can still be happy even if you're on your own. 

That's all I have to say for now. Thank you for reading my blog and let me know your thoughts in the comments below. I would love to hear it. 

I'll be back again soon with another post. 

See you then. 

Megan x 

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