How Do I Show Myself Love?

Being single for so long, you don't get exposed to much love. Obviously you experience love from family and friends but it's not the same as a love of a partner, a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I've only ever experienced it once and even then I don't know if it was the real thing or not. It felt like it at the time but looking back I'm not so sure. Especially with how it ended. I do feel left behind sometimes because every now and then I'll see someone on Facebook with a new relationship update or they just got engaged or married or having a baby. Yet I'm nowhere near any of those things. Growing up it feels like the life goal was eventually to get nowhere near any of those things. Growing up it feels like the life goal was eventually to get married and have kids but if you failed at doing that then something was wrong with you. I know everything has changed since then and it's more acceptable to be single as we've learned relationships and marriages can be complicated. In some cases it's better to be single than in a relationship. Still, I do miss that feeling of being in love.

Obviously for the moment, I can't experience that with a special someone at the moment because I don't have anyone in my life right now. The only alternative is myself. Showing myself a bit of self-love but how do I do it? Well, I'm going to tell you the ways that I show myself love so that if you're feeling the same way I do then maybe this might help.

1. Pampering

Every now and then I give myself a full pamper session. I go the whole way with a bath, face masks and doing a bit of self care. It's always nice to do little things as it feels good makes you feel better. You don't always have to go the whole way but do little things whether it's taking a shower, painting your nails or doing a bit of skincare. Every little help and sometimes taking steps to do a bit of self care everyday can really make you feel better and show yourself some love. 

2. Stop comparing yourself to others

This is a really important fact. It's easy to look at other people's lives and think they're doing better than you or they're one step ahead of you because they're in a relationship and you're not. Everyone is in their own lane in life. Nobody is falling behind in life. We are all where we are meant to be. Everything happens for a reason and if things aren't meant to be then that's okay and sometimes it's just not the right time but there will be a right time one day and you'll be so happy when it does. Stop comparing yourself to other people because you're doing a great job just being yourself. 

3. Let go of toxic people

Nobody needs toxic people in their life who bring them down or suck all the energy out of them. Even people that don't even make an effort with you or you're always the first to connect with them but it's never the other way around. Let those people go because you don't need them in your life. It'll be easy if they don't even notice if you don't message them and they never message you first. It goes to show that they are not worth it. Let go of toxic people because honestly, who needs people that bring them down when you can find people that lift you up. 

4. Journaling

One thing that really helps me is journaling because I can write all my thoughts down and I try to keep it positive for myself. It's also nice to write down how I'm feeling because it feels like a weight has been lifted and sometimes you've got a lot on your mind but you don't want to bother people with your thoughts so journaling is the next best thing. Plus you can journal in any way you want. You can do a bullet journal, a gratitude journal or just the standard Dear Diary. It's entirely up to you. Journaling really helps me with my mental health which is really important to do when it comes to showing yourself love by making sure to take care of yourself both physically and mentally.

5. Reward your successes no matter how big or small

No matter how big or small your successes are in life. Reward them because we all deserve a little reward whenever we do something good or productive. Rewarding every little achievement encourages you to be more positive but also acts as a motivator. Say you're dreading doing something then say once you've done it then you can give yourself a little reward. The reward doesn't have to be anything big, it could be just playing your video game or watching a YouTube video. Giving yourself a reward for all the successes in your life will help you to give yourself a little bit more love in life.

Thank you for taking the time to view my blog and I hope these tips help you to show yourself some love. That's all I have to say for now, I'll be back tomorrow with another blog post for you.

See you then.

Megan x

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